Another one bites the dust....

[Gromlily]

Deleting for Privacy , Thanks dear ones...

[DiMarie]

Oh Grom,
I am so sorry to hear this. You certainly do not need bad baggage, but to lose a marriage is tough.
Especially with a house, moving when it sells, Do you have children near by? Siblings?

I am sending my hugs to you, Go a head and have 20 minute cry on my cyber shoulder and then, wipe the tears, know you are loved here, and my prayers are with you, Don't hide your head in the sand, keep it up as high as TOS lets you.
With all the health issues going on, maybe it is just a time out and better days coming.
Hugs,
Di

[Jo*mar]

Oh that's terrible!!!

how long had you been together?
Did he pack all of his stuff? maybe he just needs a time out???

sorry I always have more questions.. than answers.

:confused: :confused:
hugs to you
Jo

[redjpwranglergirl]

I'm so sorry to hear this Gromlily. I hope you're able to work things out- maybe he just needs a little breather....But, it is a bad time for him to walk out on you.:mad:

[Edelweiss]

Hi,
I am really sorry to read what happens to you.
I don`t know what to say but here in the forum you know, there is always someone to talk to when you are very sad.
I send you a lot of positive thoughts.
Barbara

[law76]

What????? Call Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I Am Soooooooooo Sorry ...okay, Now Tears....you Two Have Too Special Of A Love, And You Both Know That.....lets Connect On Fri, Sweetie...love You, Always!!!!

[DDayMBB]

Grom,
So soory to hear about your added problems just what you neded at this point and time in your life.... thought go with you !!!
Mark-n-Goober

[Gromlily]

It's always nice to be able to come here and find friends :)

G~

[dawn3063]

I'm so sorry to hear that has happened to you.. Maybe you guys just need a little time..
Best thoughts your way..
((Hugs)) Dawn

[ocgirl]

I'm so sorry Gromlily,



The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the Serenity
to accept the things
I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And Wisdom to know the difference.


Martha

[olecyn]

Geeze Louize!
Are you mad as heck or at peace with this sudden slap in the face?
If there is anything I can do, PM me and I'll call you.
I have been wanting to send you something for your support through my trials.
Is the address still the same?

[Gromlily]

Thanks Martha,

The Serenity Prayer, I definitely need to focus on that right now.

Thanks for the Hugs Dawn, thanks so much..

Cyndy, your'e so sweet! I hope you are doing better.Thanks so much for your thoughtfulness.

Thanks again everyone and please keep me in your prayers. J (Hubby) too. He will need prayers too. I know this isn't easy for him either.

Hugs to All,
G~

[Horizontal One]

Gromily,

So sorry to hear of you sad time. I hope that your move goes quick and smooth and that you can settlle down and enjoy the arrival of grandchildren. That will be a happy time for you.

Vent your anger anytime as we are all here to listen and support you.

Thinking of you
Hx

[tshadow]

This news is not welcome, but, maybe you will have some peace and quiet that will relate to less pain. (???) Maybe?

When it is not me who is being left by a love, and I am outside looking in, it is much easier to see that there may be a plan and that your life may end up better for it. The situation with your son and his new baby coming sounds really exciting and wonderful.

But when it's me who is in pain, I don't "do" break-ups very well - my divorce took me three years to handle! I think I cried for a whole year. And I'm not a crier!

After 13 years with my fiance, I do allow breaks. I mean, we've had two brief ones, including moving away - and he moved back - and we talked and I took him back. We are meant for eachother, but we're not perfect.

We were just talking about how different he is now than when we met - I mean, he used to eat at 8 PM, and now he likes to eat early like me. So many BIG things, and little things, that he wasn't and now is. (Thanks to me, haha.) But seriously, he took a couple of time-outs for a couple of months, to think over whether he was happy changing with me, or, if he wanted to be alone. I didn't bug him during those times. I allowed him to come to the conclusion that both times, he loved me more than anything, and he wasn't being controlled. Some men have this deep-seated fear of control, vulnerability and true intimacy.

I will pray that whatever happens in your life, Grom, that it is a positive thing, and something that hopefully will bring you less pain of TOS. So I'll be praying for you by name, ok?

And Serenity prayer, yes. So hard, though.

Hugs, Tam

[Gromlily]

Thanks Hx and Tam,


Thanks again everyone for your kind support. It means the world to me!

You dear ones are the only ones who can truly relate to the struggles we Tos'rs go through!! Others may or may not try, but you are the ones who know the real difficulties!!

Blessings and Hugs to all,
G~

[Stardust]

Hi G,

Am so sorry to hear your sad news. I think all of us understand the stress that TOS puts on relationships....and then on top of that, you had all the stress of your husband's illness to deal with as well. Maybe somewhere down the line, you guys will be able feel a little more tenderness towards each other when you've had time to reflect on how much the stress of the terrible year you had to endure together affected your relationship?

In the meantime, I am happy to hear that you seem to be at peace with the decision. You know you always have your friends here for support.

Take care.

[Gromlily]

Thanks Stardust,
G~

[tonia]

Hi Grom...

So sorry to hear the news...
you sure have had a terrible time with illness affecting you both...
I pray that you find peace...

((((((((((((((cyber-HUGS))))))))))))))))

[Gromlily]

Hello Dear Heart!!

How are YOU!!! I hope you are hanging in there!! So good to see you made it here!!

Thanks so much for your encouragement, Things are better now, there are efforts being made to reconcile, and that is good...

Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers.

(((Hugs to you too!)))

G~ :)

[oesbrenda]

I am hopeful things will be better between the two of you. I am sure that his prostate cancer was terrifying for him, and also that you saw him at his lowest is hard for a man to take. Just remember that you did your best to make sure he got the best care, battling Kaiser and all. That should count for a lot!

[Gromlily]

You found us here!!!! I'mm so happy to hear from you!!

Thanks Sweetheart for your kind words!!

Yes, it's been a rough year, and we are back on track, trying to fight the system...both W/C and Kaiser!!

I hope you and your Mom and the dogs are well!!

((Hugs!!))
G~

[gibbrn]

Hi, Gromlily,

So sorry to hear of this pain added to the pain of tos....not what you need. Hope your heart heals better than tos......time is a wonderful thing. I was in a seven year relationship that ended five years ago and still remember the pain and difficultiy of division of things......it hurts....so my heart goes out to you at this time of ADDED pain and suffering.

Take care of YOU!!!!!

Sincerley,

Victoria

[Gromlily]

Thanks for sharing, it helps so much to hear someone else's experience when you are going through a difficult time!

And I do need to be reminded to take care of myself! I think you and I are alot alike!! :p Like you, it's hard for me to put me first if there is something someone else needs. But I'm working on it!!

And hubby is still struggeling with his cancer side effects. He has an interthecal pump to manage his pain but still sees the Dr's several times a month. So we are trying hard to take care of each other and let the rest of life take care of it's self!!

Thanks Sweetie, and you take care also!!
G~ :)