Possitive Attitude [Archive] - NeuroTalk Communities

yeahbut

01-27-2008, 09:24 AM

AfterMyNap

01-27-2008, 10:38 AM

You can do this, Char. It's hard sometimes, and I'm no shining example, but when I feel it slipping inside me, I cling to my faith, my friends, and my hope. Don't let go!:hug:

Kristi

01-27-2008, 10:46 AM

Ok, here we go again!

I need to change my attitude and get some possitive thoughts in here. So once again I am bringing back the Possitive Attitude thread.

Who's with me - anyone else need a possitive attitude adjustment?

Hi,yeahbut

Ditto for me I'm stressed out to the max and I'm worried about me and this stupid disease and I'm having some dental issues and I'm worried about my dental health, I'm not sleeping at night,I havn't felt sleepy in about a week and I'm taking tylenol PM's everynight just to fall asleep so I can go to bed at night.

tkrik

01-27-2008, 10:52 AM

I don't remember what the positive attitude thread was about.:eek: LOL

But, YB you have so many positive things going on. You are going to school to better yourself and your career despite the MS. You are a single parent. You work full-time. That is absolutely awesome! Now, pick yourself up dear and pat yourself on the back. You have so much to be proud of.

tkrik

01-27-2008, 10:55 AM

Hi,yeahbut

Ditto for me I'm stressed out to the max and I'm worried about me and this stupid disease and I'm having some dental issues and I'm worried about my dental health, I'm not sleeping at night,I havn't felt sleepy in about a week and I'm taking tylenol PM's everynight just to fall asleep so I can go to bed at night.

Don't know if this will help you but when I get really stressed and can't sleep I pull out a notebook and write. I get it all out and once I start feeling more relaxed I write some positive things. Then I tear the page or sometimes pages out of the notebook and tear it shreds. I find after that I can get to sleep and feel much better.

Hang in there. Things have a strange way of working out.

lady_express_44

01-27-2008, 11:06 AM

I don’t know most of you, or your history, so my advice is not meant personally. These are just my personal mottos:

1. Be genuine, to myself and others.
2. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
3. Don’t twist every event into it being about MS in some way.
4. This disease is not an excuse. Deal with weight & other general health issues . . . so that I can be the best that I can be.
5. Accept “what will be”. Faith that “there is a reason” is very helpful for me.
6. Go through the grieving process, with each change, and then MOVE ON to my new reality.
7. How do I eat an elephant? . . . One bite at a time. Pace myself.
8. Relaxation techniques; yoga, hypnosis, etc.

I believe that whatever I didn’t learn in this life, I will repeat in my next. I don’t want to go through some things again . . . so I aim to learn from my mistakes.

Cherie

Kitty

01-27-2008, 11:20 AM

Hi There YB,

I never got to take part in the previous "Positive Attitude" thread but it's a wonderful idea!

I know you've got a lot on your plate right now what with school and family and just "stuff". But you've also accomplished alot, too. I admire anyone who goes back to school - and with MS - well, I just wish I had half of your determination. :)

My Mom always used to tell me that there was always someone worse off than me so I needed to count my blessings and not my trials. I know - easier said than done, huh? But I've always tried to look on the bright side of things - as HARD as that may be because sometimes there is just NOT a bright side - at least that we can immediately see.

Hang in there - we're all here for you when you need us!! :hug:

01-27-2008, 11:27 AM

Hello my lil Yabbit friend.

I myself, have to try and remember to take time to stop and smell the roses.

I'm trying really hard to take one day at a time. Yest, I was in bed most of the day here at DD's. Traveling and weather change messed me up, but today is a new day and I'm moving forward.

You have alot of pressure on yourself right now.... I will think positive thoughts w/you. :hug:

greenjeans

01-27-2008, 12:10 PM

<----------Guilty of recent mood swings!!

Hmmmm, lets see...what is a postitive thought? I know! I know!

It's almost the end of January, the worst, darkest, coldest month of the year. I know that spring is just around the corner, the cold days will soon change to warm days in the thirties :rolleyes:

Another postitive thought? My DD is working thru things and has decided to go to Texas A&M starting next spring. DH and I are dreaming of a change. We want to move for a few years somewhere else to jump start our life again, and then return to our 'home' here.

Spreading good thoughts all around the boards!

kinch52

01-27-2008, 12:41 PM

I love what Lady Express said. I think that sums it up perfectly.

This may sound a little crazy but I'm always a little leary of someone who always has a "positive attitude". I believe you have to acknowledge the emotions that come with the challenges we face as human beings, not just as people with MS. You can't work through them unless you accept them first.

I'm really grateful that I have lived long enough & had enough "life experiences" to know that I'm strong & learned a few things along the way & am able to lead a happy life. Being grateful, even if it's just in the beauty of hearing a bird sing, can turn a negative thought around in seconds for me. If only I could always remember that. ;)

Hang in there, kiddo. Looks like you've already started getting a positive attitude by starting this thread. :smile:

CayoKay

01-27-2008, 01:13 PM

Don't know if this will help you but when I get really stressed and can't sleep I pull out a notebook and write. I get it all out and once I start feeling more relaxed I write some positive things. Then I tear the page or sometimes pages out of the notebook and tear it shreds.

I call that my Moody Blues Maneuver...

(Letters I've written, never meaning to send...)

works for me too, except I BURN the pages, after I let all the gremlins outta my brain.

shredding ain't GOOD enough!

ever watched CSI? they can *reconstruct* those things, TK!

and I ain't willin' to risk it, 'cause when it's just me and the notepad, I get scathingly honest.

:eek: :p :eek:

SallyC

01-27-2008, 01:57 PM

http://home.earthlink.net/~sal.pal/sitebuildercontent/sitebuilderpictures/bahhumbug.gif Just kidding. I try..:D

Riverwild

01-28-2008, 02:15 AM

I have been accused of being overly positive. I can't help it. I am just that type of person. I truly cannot remember a time when I was depressed for longer than a few hours.

My philosophy has always been that what will be will be and there is nothing I can do. I can accept and move on or I can get stuck on it and get lost in what if and why me.

I've always found it easier to just deal with a problem than get hung up on it. Not sure if it comes from the kind of work I used to do or my upbringing or what, but it works for me...

You DO have a lot going for you Char. It will get better. You are working towards your future, arming yourself with the tools to help you move on with life, regardless of where the path leads you.

Anddddd...you have friends!!:grouphug:

FlyFishin Momma

01-28-2008, 06:05 AM

Oh My darlin Friend and Soul Sista..........
You are already way more Positive thinking then you give yourself credit for........
When I answer my ringing phone I can hear the smile on your face and it brings that smile right to mine.
Remember the other night when you called and I was a grumpy butt cooking dinner? WHO brought me outta the slump????YOU!!!!!!!!! You glow in positive and radiant light..you just gotta see that when you look at yourself in the mirror!!!!

Now get to work and shine on those cranky folks there for awhile today.....

hugs and all that,
Kay

yeahbut

01-28-2008, 06:29 AM

Hello Everyone...

I am possitive.... I have to be. I do try my best to not let all my stress show or my personal matters come out but some days it is really hard!

but, as a friend told me yesterday I need to be tough! and that I am!

FlyFishin Momma

01-28-2008, 06:35 AM

YUP.............you sure izzzzz!!!!!!!!!

as a rock.

TheSleeper

01-28-2008, 07:19 AM

Stuff happens, deal with it?:eek: May not be considered positive, but usually the reality.

I don`t get stressed out, just grin and bare it, someone has too. I keep people that seem to collect problems, issues, at a distance. Usually some bad choices involved.

01-28-2008, 08:04 AM

Good Morning Char~ Just remember, no matter what the future holds, you have kicked TAIL to make it a better one..

Kay is right~~ you rock and you are amazing.

Oh, and I'm positive today. DD left for wk, I'm sipping coffee, looking out at the beautiful blue sky and hopefully a temp of 60 today.

Do I have to go back to Toad Hollow??

DH is missing me...When I leave, it always shows him just HOW much I do for him.
(good lesson for the ole boy) ha

joellelee2000

01-28-2008, 09:24 AM

Kitty

01-28-2008, 09:54 AM

This will probably be an unpopular response but I gotta say it:D

Some days I just do not want to be positive :eek:! I want to wallow in my quagmire of misery:D:D. I think that's okay because we can't always be "happy campers":p:p.

Some days I don't want to be cheered up. Like today:D:D GRRR.

I don't push my self-pity on anyone else. I keep it to myself (except right now LOL), although, the dh usually notices anyway:rolleyes::rolleyes:. That's when I have to explain, yet again, to him that some days I just don't want to and be left alone.

Is that so bad? Huh?:):)

It's perfectly alright to have a "poor me" day - I have them, too. I've had several recently as a matter of fact! :eek: I think the important thing is that we recognize that we are making a conscious decision to do this and that we do not stay in that place for too long.

FinLady

01-28-2008, 10:08 AM

***Getting the toolbox***

Yep, I sometimes need an attitude adjustment too. The unpredictability of this disease has been rough for me.

I try to find humor in what I can to help me get through things. That's why I call MS my personal rollar coaster ride and have learned to laugh at myself. I have my down days (like today), but amaze my hubby when I try to find humor in stuff that happens. :D

barb02

01-28-2008, 10:20 AM

I agree with Joelle. I think it is "normal" to sometimes be down or depressed or just in a rotten mood. It just does not seem "normal" to me to always act as if I am ok or happy. MS does suck! For example, I felt lousy yesterday (dizzy, legs and back spasms) and that affected my mood.

I talked to my neuro about this and he agreed that he would be concerned if I acted as if I was not ever down. That being said, when I was first diagnosed last Spring, I was extremely depressed for a few months -- crying every day. I did not think I would ever enjoy life again. I was wrong! I think we are all probably stronger that we think.

braingonebad

01-28-2008, 10:32 AM

Hey Yabbit, hope you're feeling better today.

Sometimes when you post it sounds a lot like how I would say things. Maybe we think and act alike. You try so hard, you do so much, I think it broadsides you when the blues sneek up on you.

It may help if you find a quiet space and zone in on what is bugging you. It can feel like everything is the problem when really it's only one or tw things that make a lot of things seem bad, kwim? Pain is like that too, only a small place hurts, but it seems like a bigger one, or a few places.

When you sort out what *hurts* and what just has a sensation, you can deal with the sensation, and work through what really hurts much easier.

You will be okay though. I know that because you have made it a goal to be okay and you work at it. Very cool.

:cool:

And we're all here to help you with that so just ask if you need chocolate or somethin.

:hug:

01-28-2008, 03:25 PM

Did Brain say CHOCOLATE????? :):)

I feel more positive already!! How bout you Yabbit??

sabimax

01-28-2008, 05:50 PM

Chocolate...good moods..yes that is a match..hehehehe

hugss all, sarah

freeinhou

01-28-2008, 07:53 PM

http://home.earthlink.net/~sal.pal/sitebuildercontent/sitebuilderpictures/bahhumbug.gif Just kidding. I try..:D

Cool! I also like your signature line! We might think a little bit alike

Tom

yeahbut

01-29-2008, 06:31 AM

This will probably be an unpopular response but I gotta say it:D

Some days I just do not want to be positive :eek:! I want to wallow in my quagmire of misery:D:D. I think that's okay because we can't always be "happy campers":p:p.

Some days I don't want to be cheered up. Like today:D:D GRRR.

I don't push my self-pity on anyone else. I keep it to myself (except right now LOL), although, the dh usually notices anyway:rolleyes::rolleyes:. That's when I have to explain, yet again, to him that some days I just don't want to talk and to be left alone.

Is that so bad? Huh?:):)

There are days I don't want to be possitive either.... but, when it goes for days then that is when I know I need to start thinking possitive again.

I work with a lady that is negative all the time.... she is never happy. Day after day it rubs off and it gets really old quickly. I can't imagine ever being that mad at the world and being that negative.

If I get like that please tell me! :eek:

joellelee2000

01-29-2008, 07:35 AM

There are days I don't want to be possitive either.... but, when it goes for days then that is when I know I need to start thinking possitive again.

I work with a lady that is negative all the time.... she is never happy. Day after day it rubs off and it gets really old quickly. I can't imagine ever being that mad at the world and being that negative.

If I get like that please tell me! :eek:

I know people like the woman you describe. Can you imagine how much energy that must take to be angry all of the time:(! I know I don't want to waste my life being miserable all of the time (just sometimes:)).

Don't worry, I'm sure plenty of people here will tell you if you get like that;);):D! You're not like that anyway; you're just having a tough time right now. It will pass. Do something you enjoy; that always cheers me up:D.

01-29-2008, 10:10 AM

Good Morning Positive PEEPle! Had to throw that in, as the Peeps are in the stores. YUCKO!

Hope today is a good one for ya, Char. I am positive today, as loving every second w/my NC family. I miss DH and furbabies, but this is good med for me. I am positive I will be lazy today, too!

Take care all...:)

tkrik

01-29-2008, 11:55 AM

I think if I were happy and upbeat all the time I'd have to go to therapy. LOL.

For me, life is about balance. I try to accept the bad days because they make the good days that much better.

I just read a book by Piero Ferrucci called "The Power of Kindness" where in his chapter on gratitude he says:

"If everything always went smoothly, we would take for granted all that was beautiful and would not full appreciate the gifts of life. We would be like spoiled kids who have received so many presents, they have grown bore4d. Indeed, sometimes it is the dramas of life that open us to gratitude."

I put a bookmark on this page as I always felt that to fully and wholly enjoy the good times, I have to go through the bad times. Otherwise, how would I ever know what good times are? This excerpt really hit home to me. It is exactly how I view things.

BTW - I remember in my early teens one of my older sisters explaining to me that I had to date all different boys - good and bad - so that I would know how to pick the goods ones. LOL. She was right not only in the dating department but in life in general. Go through the bad so you know what the good is and you can embrace it.

Becca44

01-30-2008, 06:17 PM

I absolutely believe in maintaining a positive attitude. I get chided for it sometimes but honestly, I couldn't care less about that. :) Yes, crummy things happen - both big and small - but wallowing in negativity only makes it worse. Attitude is sometimes the only thing I can control.

This is not to say 'I smile and sing in the face of hardship'. I get sad and angry like anyone else (I'm a fully-evolved-adult capable of experiencing the full spectrum of emotion, after all). But, when things take a downturn, maintaining a positive attitude is the difference between apathy/despair and adaptation/hope. I'll take the latter, whenever I can. Even if it takes work.

:)

PolarExpress

01-30-2008, 09:38 PM

We live our lives in a world of opposites..
Up..Down
Happy..Sad
Chocolate..Brocolli *oops..off topic*
My point being, How could we appreciate the sunshine without the dark night? Would we exhilerate at the top of the mountain if we never experienced the valley?
I believe there are blessings in all things, but that doesn't mean all things are what we think they should be.
Most of the time, I can kick myself in the butt and see the truth in how beautiful my life is, and how grateful and happy I am with it.
There are times that it's good for the soul to let go and allow the sad times to be what they are, even if only for a short time. There are blessings to be found there, too. Just don't invite them to stay.

Friend2U

01-30-2008, 10:53 PM

I POSITIVELY believe in you!!!!!!!!!!! Hang in there!!!! :wink:

the Bird

01-30-2008, 11:01 PM

Being positive is a part of life.

You know...when you feel bad or down or blue or whatever you want to call it. I give myself a time limit. One evening, the day until the kids get home, a whole Saturday, whatever. i give it a limit.

I am told often that I am so positive and upbeat about my MS. It is the only way I know to be.

Believe me I've had my days, my moments, my hours....don't think I haven't!

For me, it is about accepting me as I am. And striving to be the best I can be.

I don't know you and I'm not sure what you need from this thread. I never saw the other one. Take it easy on yourself. Take a small thing to be thankful for, that will help with your outlook.

Keep your chin up!

Peace.

ewizabeth

01-30-2008, 11:20 PM

Attitude is sometimes the only thing I can control.

This is not to say 'I smile and sing in the face of hardship'. I get sad and angry like anyone else

Amen to that Ms Becca! :)

Ok, here we go again!

I need to change my attitude

Dear Char,

You are such a positive person! If you have a down day it's ok, you have the right. But you do so much that is so positive! You're a fabulous Mom, hard worker, going to school, I could go on and on. Think about all that's wonderful about you, you'll have a long list that will lift your spirits!
:hug:

Riverwild

01-31-2008, 01:41 AM

Nice pic there Yabbit!!!:p

AfterMyNap

01-31-2008, 10:20 AM

There are days I don't want to be possitive either.... but, when it goes for days then that is when I know I need to start thinking possitive again.

I work with a lady that is negative all the time.... she is never happy. Day after day it rubs off and it gets really old quickly. I can't imagine ever being that mad at the world and being that negative.

If I get like that please tell me! :eek:

You're so right, lambchop, it takes so much energy out of me when I'm in a foul way. I've been in a bit of a dark place lately myself and it truly does gnaw away at my spirit. It makes me feel useless to the world.

But, this is a new day and there are things that must be done, nothing will change the past.

So, I will wait with eager anticipation to see what the day brings me.;):hug:

(I'm hoping it's the new shoes I ordered);)

ewizabeth

01-31-2008, 10:26 AM

... this is a new day and there are things that must be done, nothing will change the past.

So, I will wait with eager anticipation to see what the day brings me.;):hug:

(I'm hoping it's the new shoes I ordered);)

Ooooh, new shoes!!! :D Nothing like a little shopping to lift your spirits! I hope you'll have a fabulous day AMN. :hug: