How do I stop being a pushover

[MKane]

About a month ago I had a guy move into my guestroom. The deal was that he would helpout around the farm and house in return for rent. So far he has moved all sorts of tacky furniture into his room and moved my guest room furniture into the other rooms. This doesn't help in selling the house.He also brought his uinhoustrained dog. My biggest problem however is that he hasn't done one thing so far to help. He is afraid of the horses. He won't learn to drive the tractor and when I asked him to move some bags of feed (50 lbs) he forgot. In the meantime he is raiding my fridge when I'm not home. I've been giving him a break because he does have a full time job, but today he left before 7:00 AM to run personal errands.

I hate conflict, but see one coming on. Sorry for the vent.

[CTenaLouise]

About a month ago I had a guy move into my guestroom. The deal was that he would helpout around the farm and house in return for rent. So far he has moved all sorts of tacky furniture into his room and moved my guest room furniture into the other rooms. This doesn't help in selling the house.He also brought his uinhoustrained dog. My biggest problem however is that he hasn't done one thing so far to help. He is afraid of the horses. He won't learn to drive the tractor and when I asked him to move some bags of feed (50 lbs) he forgot. In the meantime he is raiding my fridge when I'm not home. I've been giving him a break because he does have a full time job, but today he left before 7:00 AM to run personal errands.

I hate conflict, but see one coming on. Sorry for the vent.

Dear Mary,
did you have him sign an agreement for the reason he can live in your home,
just be like me -get a friend like - a male friend or a female friend who is a lawyer, tell him he has two options -one is to fufill the bargain or 2.
you will take him to court for being a freeloader!
One who depends on another for support without reciprocating: bloodsucker, hanger-on, leech, parasite, sponge. See dependence/independence.

someone who takes advantage of the generosity of others
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OR

so dear M,
just be an actress -and tel him

if you have your home on the market w/ a realtor, or not...

tell him he has to move out you have a buyer,
and that breaks the verbal or written agreement between you (which the
baaa! - sterd did not keep!... I will do it for you -but over the phone is not as effective... :yahoo:

you are not a pushover -you have a higher standard of ethics -that many people do not understand, because you expected follow through does not make you a pushover...if you were the boss and you are
you would just fire his bottom -

just take charge and go forth, knowing what you have learned...
:hug:
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[stevem53]

I hate conflict too Mary, but I think this guy has to go..The fact that you are ill, and all he seems to think about is himself, speaks volumes about his character

[reverett123]

Just in case the jerk is a real jerk. A simple letter should do it if he knows he is dealing with more than you.

[gaykir]

Mary - Please have a friend or your realtor there when you tell him. Your having support on hand is safest and easiest.

[jeanb]

Good advice - have someone with you. Jean

Mary - Please have a friend or your realtor there when you tell him. Your having support on hand is safest and easiest.

[Thelma]

I hope this doesn't frighten you but I have real estate that I rent out and when I became older it has developed into a big problem for me as I am ill as well but not Pd.

You must contact the pollice and have them there when you talk to him as to verify to him that you have protection from them and they have identification of him if there be any trouble.

I have all of my holdings up for sale now as it is too much for me and while I am losing money the thought of having someone like this occupy one on the buildings is scary it must be really hard to be in the same house with him.

All I want you to know is protect protect protect yourself with others who can benefit you if the need arises.

Take care and hope for the best as you want it to be.