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maggs440
02-03-2009, 12:35 AM
Hi,
My Mom on labor day of 2008 had a brain aneurysm bleed. She was life flighted to University hospitals in Cleveland Ohio where they coiled 2 of the aneurysms, her recovery was very fast and she was out of the hospital withing 3 weeks. They took care of my mom's AVM(its like a tangled mass of veins in her brain) on December 5th 2008 in a 2 surgery process. This was by far the worst experience of my life, after the first surgery my mother did not recognize any of her family and acted like a small child. They took her in for the removal of the AVM on December 6th and she came out much better than the first, she knew her own name and most of her family. But our last trial was an aneurysm that had not burst that needed to be clipped. This surgery was scheduled for January 5th 2009, this surgery seemed to be the easiest of them all... but after my mom had recovered she was different, it was like someone else was in her body. My mom was my best friend and now she won't even really talk to me, she is more irritable and just all around unpleasant. She used to be everyone's best friend! She usually worked seconds but now she wakes up late and goes to bed early! I don't know what to do! Its ripping my family apart. I was wondering if anyone has had an experience close to this? I hope with time she will become more of what she used to be, but I don't know what to think. Please someone help.




Nancy0708
02-03-2009, 07:54 AM
Hi,
My Mom on labor day of 2008 had a brain aneurysm bleed. She was life flighted to University hospitals in Cleveland Ohio where they coiled 2 of the aneurysms, her recovery was very fast and she was out of the hospital withing 3 weeks. They took care of my mom's AVM(its like a tangled mass of veins in her brain) on December 5th 2008 in a 2 surgery process. This was by far the worst experience of my life, after the first surgery my mother did not recognize any of her family and acted like a small child. They took her in for the removal of the AVM on December 6th and she came out much better than the first, she knew her own name and most of her family. But our last trial was an aneurysm that had not burst that needed to be clipped. This surgery was scheduled for January 5th 2009, this surgery seemed to be the easiest of them all... but after my mom had recovered she was different, it was like someone else was in her body. My mom was my best friend and now she won't even really talk to me, she is more irritable and just all around unpleasant. She used to be everyone's best friend! She usually worked seconds but now she wakes up late and goes to bed early! I don't know what to do! Its ripping my family apart. I was wondering if anyone has had an experience close to this? I hope with time she will become more of what she used to be, but I don't know what to think. Please someone help.
Hi- After the first coiling of my biggest annie in July 08 my daughter said I was different. I explained that this was a life changing experience, and we gradually got through the changes and things are back to normal. I just had a clipping on my 2nd annie on Jan 27 09, I am home, no real changes, just letting the brain heal. It is very hard to keep low and let the healing process take over. Your Mom may have some personality changes during this, and I don't blame her. please be patient, it may take up to 6 months or more for her to adjust, just love her, and try to roll with the punches, things will calm down. Nancy

Ruthie1959
02-03-2009, 12:00 PM
Hi Maggs,
Wow, your Mom has been through ALOT in a very short time, not to mention she had a bleed! This is all very shocking to the brain and body not to mention her mental capacity to accept it all. Be patient with her and give her lots of love. The sleeping part is completely normal and much needed to heal, so let her sleep as much as she wants. She sounds like an amazing woman that has been through alot, give her lots of gentle hugs and encouragement, things will improve with time,
Ruthie

maggs440
02-04-2009, 09:42 AM
Your words are so comforting! I know it takes time, I guess we will just have to wait and see and hopefully everything will be back to a somewhat normal state.Thank you so much!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY
02-06-2009, 08:39 PM
Hi, Maggs440!:

"My mom was my best friend..."

This quote just leapt from the page for me and I just want to comfort you. You are, afterall, the one posting here and asking for something.

My best friend, my husband, had a bleeding brain aneurysm. It was operated on, tied and he lived.

What you need to do is take care of you. Know that there are many of us who are and have adjusted to this kind of life devastation! I am for you.

Take as long as you want to face and recover from the shock and the ongoing concerns.

I have taken a very long time to get to where I am and have done many, many things to cope (not all healthy). The healthy ones work best. There is no cup of coffee, tea or holiday that is going to make the recovery time better. Only time will, one day at a time! It will take many times of caring for you, more than I or you can count but you must continue to care for yourself and let others pamper you too.

I know your love for you mom is still there and her love for you is there too. It's just that it's transformed. So, now, you will need to change the way you love her. It will be better than ever! You won't be able to measure it with what it looked like before. It will have a new look!

Bye for now,
HB