Originally Posted by SandraLinNC
Looking to meet friends who are pretty much in the same situation as I am. Husband suffered a fall over the summer and is now suffering from TBI. He is high functioning but definitely not the same man I married. We barely get along anymore and are steps away from a divorce. Looking for others input as well as their experiences and techniques of coping.
Between the depression, violent outburst, manipulation, lying about and abusing money I don't know if me and the kids should go or stay!
I am not walking in your shoes. Actually the only people who can share their experience is of course others who are married to spouses with TBI's.
You have been given the link to the correct forum.
You can go there, post your story, and listen to what others have to say.
Will that help you make a decision to stay in your marriage?
Don't think so. Because you will hear some people say "well, you took vows for better or for worse", you have to stick with him, etc. etc.etc.
The bottom line is.
What is in the best interests of your children?
You mention violent outbursts, lying, manipulation, etc.
All this seems to have happened after his injury right?
Is he on the meds he needs to be on? Does he indeed take them on schedule?
There are a lot of questions you need to ask yourself before you obviously make any life altering decisions. The people on the TBI thread can listen, and advise you, but ultimately it's up to you.
I will give you one unsolicited piece of advice.
If you or your children are in any danger, then you really do know what you have to do.
Just my honest opinion.
Keep posting on that forum, and see what the others say.
I am praying for you.