Hi, Waves,
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How do you feel about knowing work buddy thinks of / misses your friend and the two who left so much?
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He said exactly this:" Not a day goes by that I do not wish I had R, S, and T here . . . " I lost the rest of the sentence because he was talking on a really bad cell phone. Before that sentence he had said something specific I cannot remember that went something a long the lines of this --- I could ask so and so about such -- Or so and so would help with this, . . . . . . .point this out,. . . . .
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Did your work buddy say that thing about the two colleagues being smarter than the two of you, or was that a comment of your own?
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He does not use the word "smart." He was expressing how he wished he could draw on them for information, . .... . that he could get useful input. . . .
Work Buddy's mind is creative. He sometimes needs help when he comes up with a far out idea. He wants someone to give him a suggestion / some feedback on where he might go with that idea. The others were more creative than I am and could respond more easily to his creativity. They also had more of a sense of humor that I do. He had fun bouncing ideas off them.
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intelligence is a difficult topic for me. i know we should not compare ourselves to others but i find it hard not to at times. i have also found however that there are different kinds of smarts.
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One of the three missing people was young and had a "quick" kind of smarts. He also had encyclopedic memory . . . . and had wit and cleverness.
The other two were older and had depth and breadth of knowledge and experience. They were good at putting something into perspective or hearing or reading something and building upon it.
I feel like Work Buddy and I are trying to swim in mud. Everything is hard. So hard. We make tiny bits of progress once in a while.
Now that we have been out of crisis mode for the last three months perhaps we can begin learning how the other thinks.
In the past two days we have been getting reminders of Colleague's death -- some triggering is going on.
M