Hello All from Ginnie good news!

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Originally Posted by ginnie

There is a toxic person, and my innocent special education daughter ... has been twisted, and cannot make the mental connections, so her brother and me were blamed for something I had no control over. ... Her husband, because he thought I short changed her somehow, took this innocent adult and my grandchild away from me for these past 9 years. ... Her anger is misplaced, and firmly belongs to her husband, who used her to get family money. This is the core of the situation.

This is terrible Ginnie, I am so sorry to hear this. I can't imagine how painful it must be to have this man subjugate your daughter and destroy your family unity this way, just to put his grubby hands on the family assets. This is so sad. I hope somehow, in some way, the situation is rectified. I cannot think of a way, but miracles do happen. I will wish for a miracle for you here.

Originally Posted by ginnie

still working on wacking out the quacks. Have my PCP in my corner now to help with that.He understood and is now intervening on my behalf. I just loved that sentance. ginnie

LOLOL that's great Ginnie... I am so glad your PCP is helping you with the "whacking" lol. hehe, I'm glad too that I my goofy writing gave you a little cheer.

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[bizi]

hugs to ginnie who has too much on her plate...
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

[ginnie]

Hi waves and bizi, all of us together make all burdens so much lighter. We do the best we can in life. Sometimes too much is handed out, then we sure do need each other. I have hinted around over the last two years about my family, I am glad I can speak here and have the understanding. It really does hurt, and I am not sure there is a solution either. I do have a psychologist friend who lives in the same area as my daughter. he has her e-mails to me, my replies, and has intervened several times over the years to try to bring peace. I am blessed to have him in my life to. I am not alone in this and talk to this good councelor alot about this. He is trying to reason with her, without disturbing her marriage. I have no wish to hurt this daughter of mine that way. She needs to understand things however so we can be at peace. I am not sure she has the capabability, thats what makes this so hard.

Looking now and researching the MRI terms for my ankle and foot. Learning alot. Then I will be in touch with the surgeon again to review the MRI. Still do not have a pain specialist to help with post OP. My PCP is intervening on my behalf. All will be OK. Thank you, all of you that are with me in spirit. ginnie

[Mari]

Dear Ginnie,

'Thinking of you and hoping you are feeling good about the progress you are making.
Lots of good thoughts and prayers sent your way.


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[mymorgy]

i am so sorry that you have had to go through so many difficulties in your life. you are a champion. not many people could maintain your lovely and loving attitude.
bobby

[ginnie]

I am doing OK. I am looking up all the stuff this moring about my MRI. I plan to call my surgeon in the near future once I understand the terms. Since he is messing with my ability to walk, I need to understand the pro's and cons of what he plans to do. he had given no information about terms on MRI.

Debating on writing back to my daughter. I am so upset with her thinking that my anger is really out there. Why would she think I did not want to fulfill the terms and conditions of the trust? Where did she get that idea? If she received no benefit as she wanted it wasn't because me& son didn't pay her, her husband didn't permit her to benefit from it, to do as she wished to do. He controled the purse strings. She is bitter about being in debt for the rest of her life with school loans. Well she got more than enough to take care of that. I sure would like to know what happened, but I think I do know. I am dealing with this, but sure am hot over it. She told me also, that at one time her dear husband wanted to help me if things got bad, Yes he did, but then turned around and said I was not welcome in their home. It cannot be both ways. Why would I believe anything he said? He did not succeed in twisting me like he did my daughter. Oh Bobby, why are family trouble so difficult at times? This whole thing didn't have to happen at all.

In dealing with family, and then of course you know about my medical stuff, it just puts me over the top sometimes. No wonder my doctor thinks I am by-polar, I very may well be I don't know. My emotional state is all over the place right now.
I care about all of you too Bobby. You should never question yourself, you have so much kindness in you, and you reach out to everybody. You are a good person, who has a good soul. I am glad to have you in my corner too. ginnie

[bizi]

I think you could write a letter to your daughter and at least explain...try to not close that bridge if you can.
I am sorry that you are having such a hard time in regards to your family.
Wish it were easier for you.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

[ginnie]

I did write a letter, explained all. She doesn't have the capasity to understand why her brother and I acted on the trust as we did. No comprehension of the reason behind actions. She has been twisted to some weird belief system that I somehow short changed her. I didn't. If she did not recieve what was due her, it is because her husband controls the purse strings. That is where the blame is in this. She received all due her and on time. Very painful in many respects. I did reach out with letter, told her I love her and tried to expain. didn't do any good. a psych friend of mine who lives near her is going to visit her when he goes into town next. Try to explain in person just what happened. Cannot be peace, unless she has comprehension that I did all the right things, all the right moral things. thanks bizi, you help me to keep my sanity in this mess. ginnie

[bizi]

I am glad to hear that you have a psych friend who is going to speak to her on your behalf. she may listen to him.
I wish you some peace.
(((((HUGS))))
bizi

[ginnie]

Yes Bizi, I am lucky to have this gent in my life. We have been friends for 30 years, and he watched my daughter grow up with me. He loves her too, and is dismayed at how she is. He has talked to her 4 times so far. What is sad about this, is that I miss my daughter very much. I don't want to leave this life, not having resolution or understanding from her. I do not know what happened to her compassion or reason. I don't understand why she cannot understannd the whole situation. I was abandoned for no good reason. I did all the right things, yet I am punished. I appreciate you listening to this too Bizi. We all go through so much on NT. What a blessing this place is for us to go when we hurt. If only the world would be as kind as this place of peace is. take care Bizi, and thank you for being in my corner. ginnie