HELP have a son about to be 13 - school refusal

[SD38]

Originally Posted by Dmom3005

The mom that is posting last about the 6 year old. Sorry I can't get
that long of a name correct so didn't try.

But I agree with Lara, I would not be taking away things. I do not
think it will help. I also wonder what happened in the last month,
to make school worse for him. If this was gradual and it then got
worse it makes more sense. Or if he was in preschool, and had
problems during the winter, it might also.

I would then wonder if its got something to do with the mornings
not being daylight as much.


I would see if taking him to school later makes a differnce also for
one thing. You can work this in the 504, to take him say at noon,
and then do the afternoon. If this seems to work you can then
try increasing the day.

donna

School refusal.................that's a tough one!!!!!!!!!!!!
I experienced this with my son while going through the primary to secondary school transition.IT WAS HELL!!!!!!!!!!!He was so unhappy at the first choice of school and the Special Educational Needs department was lacking compassion to those children with needs to say the least.
We gave it a good shot after bouts of EXTREME crying/temper outbursts and full blown aggression/resistance to attend school. We persisted with the school for 4 months until the day that my son came out of school and said......." I don't trust them!".
That spoke VOLUMES from a child with learning difficulties and a severe speech and language disorder! After a discussion from a very arrogant/non compassionate lead member of staff I took action and withdrew him from the heartless school.
After 2 months of home tutoring and a frantic search for a school appropiately adapted to meet his differentiated academic and non academic needs including compassion/speech and language therapy/ social skills etc the goal was achieved.
He is now fully happy in his new school environment, has less academic pressure but is strongly encouraged to achieve HIS personal best.... not just meet school targets. The right school has to be found, and your child knows when it's right!
If they struggle than compassion/patience is needed.
LISTEN to your child........... Sometimes a change is needed.
Best wishes to all out there who are experiencing this sort of struggle, I know how extremely stressful it can get! xx

[SD38]

Originally Posted by JKelton

I know this is a very old post, but....

Any child with OCD or anxiety issues who refuses to go to school should also be evaluated for Asperger's Syndrome.

Yes I agree..... at least assessed for some form/strain of Autism!!!!!!!!!!!! It's the difficulty of social adjustment etc, that is the issue.
Possibly ??????? ( NOT OFFICIALLY, I'm just suggesting) 98% of kids just go with the flow and adjust to new situations/change. If there is an issue.................. than there may be an ISSUE! And NOT one to be ignored!!
LISTEN to your kids.
Complaints DON'T come from nowhere.

[argyle]

I don't know if this thread is still active, but my 11 year old son has the same problem, except that he's fine once he gets into school. He has temper tantrums and completely loses any emotional control, and it's a battle every day just to get him to school; if I can get him out of the car, he's OK, and has a good day, but every day is an exhausting battle just to get him ready for school and then on the way. He's very smart but just can't handle the emotional anxiety of going to school. We know there's no bullying going on, and have the support of the Child Study Team, and are seeing a child pyschologist as well, but for some reason his anxiety just skyrockets when it's time for school. He just started Lexapro, so we'll see how that goes. Will gladly listen to any suggestions.

[Dmom3005]

Welcome Argylge

Hope I spelled it correctly. It sounds like you are doing everything you
can. I am not sure I can come up with any clues to help. But please
feel free to keep talking to us. We will try to give you ideas.

I don't know if you try different ways of getting him to school. Like
someone come get him. If this would work.

Donna