Hi, New Member, a question about being nice
Hi, I'm new here. It's nice to meet you, reading the threads on these forums you all seem very nice. It's good to find some support, even if I don't have a confirmed diagnosis. (I hope it's okay to come here like that. I def have something going on!)
My doctor told me yesterday that the bizarre thing going on with my jaw, ear, and face was probably Trigeminal Neuralgia. It just started giving me "attacks" or whatever they're called 5 days ago. Before, they were just weird migraines. Luckily, I was already scheduled to go to the neurologist for the migraines. I hope the medicine helps, because I don't know if I can deal with this too long!
I'm 27, married for almost 2 years. I'm a massage therapist, but I closed my business in September because it wasn't successful. Hopefully I can work for a good spa soon! I like sewing, reading, comics, and baking. I have a cat.
People who have pain, how do you stay civil to your spouses or other people when you're in pain? Because I just told my husband "Shut ******* up!" in the car yesterday when I was having an attack when he commented "Isn't it strange that it's just one side of your face?" I apologized after and he forgave me. He said he regretted saying it even before I snapped at him, that he knew it wasn't helpful and would be annoying, but I would never say something like that to him seriously normally! Even if I was really mad at him and wanted him to shut up!
I'm just afraid that if I don't get better soon or learn to be nice when I have pain that he'll resent me. Luckily it's not too often. And I'm usually not that mean, just grumpy. And grumpiness is pretty forgivable I think, even if I do want to keep a positive attitude because I don't know how long it'll take to fix this or if it'll get fixed.