I really hate feeling like an "invalid" and I've done my best to not impose on friends and family when I'm laid up, especially considering that, after surgery in two weeks, I'll have little choice but to impose on them a lot.
But I've come to realize that, while everyone is quick to say "Let me know if you need anything!" or "I'll be happy to help however I can," none of them really mean it. You want to know if someone will really help you out? Ask them to mow the lawn, or help you restrain your dog for her arthritis injection and ear medication. Or ask them to pick up some groceries for you when they are picking up theirs - you'll be amazed the excuses you get "Oh, my husband's doing the shopping and he won't get the right things for you," "I know I said I'd call but I forgot and I just went shopping and I won't be back on that side of town for ages! Sorry!" or "Oooh, I would, but we've planned to spend the whole weekend just relaxing at the house and I'd hate for you to have to wait, so maybe you should call someone else..."
It's like everyone wants to get credit for making the offer, but no one wants to make good on it. I wish they wouldn't even offer if they aren't sincere. Any one know how this feels?