found her, lost her
My 30th high school reunion just happened recently and it brought on a flood of emails, and snail mails from friends long since forgotten. There were many letters from some girls who were pretty mean to me, and some who stood by and allowed others to be mean. If I were to choose one or two to find, I would have searched for Dawn, and Gina. I asked for help, and was able to find Gina. After some work I was able to locate a PO box and an old email address. I wrote the email, and got no response. I wrote the po box and received a response to the email the same day she received the letter. The letter was short and sweet. something to the effect of "always wondered what happened to you. would love to hear from you."
I got a real phone call from her and she was bubbly and sweet and seemed excited to hear from me, and about me. We talked for an hour and a half. She was growing tired and so was I, so I suggested we pick this up another day. She asked me to call her Saturday at 2. so, i did. no answer. I called at 8 (the same hour she phoned me) and no answer. I tried sunday. no answer. I skipped a day and called Tuesday. no answer. hmmm...I called last night, and no answer. At this point I am wondering if she simply didnt want to keep the door open and didnt want to tell me. I left a short message
My message said "Hi, its Debbie, and I called on Saturday like you asked, but havent been able to find you home. I did try to call a few times, but at this point I sorta feel like I am chasing you, and I dont think either of us would want that. I tell you what, this is my number (i gave my phone #) call me if you want to catch up. I am always happy to talk to you. thanks, it really was great to hear from you again." and I ended the call.
Hit me with your wisdom. What happened? We talked about children, family, jobs, health, and so forth. I dont believe I said anything offense, rude or off the cuff. it was light and happy just like two old g/fs who havent heard from each other in 25 years would be. She seemed genuinly happy to hear from me, and happy to share where she had been, and what she had been doing. Why would she now be refusing my call? Am I being overly sensitive? If she didnt want to be found, why would she have called me? I guess my little warped brain cant understand why someone who I once loved as deeply as bffs can, would be so happy that she would call me, and then...avoid me. its like high school all over again!
what is your advice? I have let it go. I will not be calling anymore. I wish her well, and hope only good things for her, but it just puzzles me that she would ask me to call and then not pick up the phone.
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