Originally Posted by Blaine
I haven't yet googled the combo you recommended and hopfully it will show me a workshop.
Just copy (Ctrl-c) exactly what's in bold letters and paste (Ctrl-v) directly into a google search window.
My husband does go to many of my appointments, but he just blocks them all out now. He blocks out my pain, and focuses on my behavor instead. Its sad - we've both done that to each other.
I sort of understand that, and I don't. When I was very young and foolish, I accidentally stepped on my (then) fiancees glasses and broke them. Having perfect eyesight (at the time) I was insensitive how important they were to her - not realizing how blind she was without them, and putting a low priority on getting them fixed. The next time I came home from work she was in tears because she couldn't see to do anything
. To try to understand (and perhaps as some kind of penance) I went blindfolded for a day, and it (pardon the ironic humor) opened my eyes.
It's a lesson neither of us have ever forgotten. Now in later life, we're both extremely
sensitive to each others' pain & suffering, accompany each other to doctors (and take notes/ask questions) and act as mutual caregivers.
I don't know if it would help for him to monitor/join some caregiver support groups, or talk to some spouses in similar situations. I can imagine some things that may be going through his mind, and IMO, he needs to be set straight.
My best wishes for you both,