Originally Posted by July63
I praise your soberness. I do disagree with some things; first, if your ex-wife sat with you every day, 24/7 and did not want you to drink... did you drink in front of her anyway? If so, then yes, other actions need to be done, but I think you didn't disrespect her, and you drank when she wasn't around. Okay, maybe you drank when she was around, did she just sit there and say 'oh wells, may as well watch him drink." Did you drink when you got 'rid' of her so she wouldn't be around? If that was the case, that is my point. She needed to stick closer to you. I can tell me, if I don't want my dog to chew rawhide, and I watch her all the time, even if rawhide is next to her, she isn't chewing rawhide. If i turn my back, she may go for it, but if I am watching, then no chew for you.
Isn't it that simple, or what do I miss. If you are going to explain, be simple and logically (I am a simple man with a TBI and memory problems, may not remember this post)... Be gentle
Well, Thank You!.. I didnt drink at home..I drank in bar rooms, and I did not care if she liked it, complained about it, threatened to leave me..etc
My point is, that we cannot get anyone sober, and we cant make them stay sober..The alcoholic has to WANT to get sober, and stay sober
There is alot more about alcoholism than drinking..I have to go to meetings..I had to take a good look at myself, the damage and hurt I caused others, I had to try to help other alcoholics find sobriety, and pass to on my experience, strength, and hope with them..I can only lead them to water, but it is their willingness..their decision to drink the water
I have to always to remember that I am sober today by the grace of God, because when I went into rehab, I didnt have any grace..I dont think I knew what the word meant
This is a suggestion, in your travels, find our AA text book "Alcoholics Anonymous"..It explains the truth of alcoholism, and offers a program of recovery..The book can explain it better than I can..It explains the problem, and offers a solution to the problem
Tying to control an alcoholic will make the people around me/you/them go crazy after a while..Alcoholics are liars, dishonest, selfish, defiant, manipulative people..
One morning, I woke up hangoover that could kill a horse, an I sat on my bed..I was 36 years old at the time..and I realized that in 36 years of my life, I was a nobody, who had not accomplished a thing, and out of nowhere, I had lost the desire to drink, and I wanted to go in rehab, and, became willing to do what ever that I had to do to get sober and stay sober