Although, Mike, looking back at your post, your question really seemed to be about getting an email notification to someone else about your pm to them. Unfortunately, if THEY don't have their user cp set to received emails, you'll still have to wait until they happen to log in and check!
Now, let me inject a problem of my own into this thread. I can't seem to get Community and Forum Feedback to come up. I can jump to an individual thread in it, from an email notification, for example, as I did to this one. Or from the "Last Post" listing next to Community & Forum on the General page. But it I click on C & F itself, it tells me page not found. I've clicked on several other forums from the General page without any problem. Just the C & F page won't come up.