Donna,
I had missed your reply answer. Wow, you have had quite a life experience. I have a cousin with similar head injuries. He fell from a swimming pool slide onto concrete head first.
I got knocked out in 4th grade from a bicycle accident. After I was released from the hospital (My speech was slurred for three days), I got zero follow-up. My up and down academic performances were unexplained until 10th grade when I started having seizures.
I recovered to high functioning but not complete recovery, after each minor bump and decompensation. I had to give up on goal of dental school. The stresses of study were too great. After 25 years of successful self-employment, suffered minor head trauma in 2001 that took driving away. Doctor said my age and multiple head traumas had likely use up the brain plasticity available. he was surprised at my high level of functioning considering my brain dysfunction that showed on the EEG.
With all of your surgical interventions, it is no wonder your body does not respond like expected. I agree with Jo*Mar that TOS is still worth investigating. I wonder if TOS may have been a cause of many of your problems for a long time. I had a Stanford professor gastroenterologist spend weeks trying to find the cause of my gut problems. Then, a chiropractor found a dislocated rib, reduced it and I was symptom free in a few hours.
Finding the magic hands that understand your body can be a lifesaver. I have been touched by about 30 chiros and PTs. Only 4 have been able to help me. Don't be afraid to keep looking for the healing hands, either chiro or PT. I finally found a good chiro for my TOS but eventually, he and his wife moved away. My PT is fabulous but hard to get an appointment because EVERYBODY knows how good she is. Sometimes, a good therapeutic massage can help with TOS.
I agree that you need to get a Social Security Disability Income application approved. You sure sound like you qualify. Your medical leave history should be good evidence of your disability. SSDI is small change but it includes Medicare so it is worthwhile. I was finally approved last March, after three years. Hopefully, your approval will be much faster. Your struggle with ADL's (Activities of Daily Living) are good qualifiers.
btw, Has your husband been tested for sleep apnea. His snoring and restless legs are strong symptoms of OSA. (Obstructive Sleep Apnea). I had not slept in the same bed as my wife for a long time. I finally got started on Bio-identical hormone replacement therapy 3 weeks ago. Now I sleep much better and get to sleep in the bed again. The recliner was getting old.
Look into Bio-identical Hormones. The branded pharmaceutical hormones are not quite the same. I am on DHEA and testosterone. My wife is on DHEA and progesterone. It took her about a year to get the dosage right. It is life changing. Your body sounds like it is screaming for hormone balance. Womens International Pharmacy has a 'find a doc' referral system on their web site. Go to :
http://www.womensinternational.com/ or better yet:
http://www.womensinternational.com/r..._referral.html
Your hubby sounds like a keeper. Putting up with people like us is a challenge. My wife struggled to understand me until we finally found a brain injury support group. She learned that she was not alone. At least now, she has others to talk to about this.
Hope you are having a better day.
My best to you.
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Mark in Idaho
54 years old, retired due to disability, married, father of thee, grandfather of three, stopped driving after last concussion at 46 years old, Post Concussion Syndrome/Multiple Concussion Syndrome with PTSD, immediate and short term memory problems, slowed processing speed, insomnia, absence seizures, OCD
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