Hi, Mari has some good thoughts.
I am a parent and grandparent of children with bipolar, ADHD and learning disabilities, and mood disorders. More than one child.
And my oldest son had intermittent explosive disorder, and before it was diagnosed, I like you had to pick my battles. And I believe one of the battles I didn't touch, but he knew I hated swearing. But I let it go.
He has a younger brother 3 years younger, that thought he got away with everything, at the time. Or I thought he did.
And a even younger brother, that I had to protect both of them.
In the end, I learned many years later they both knew what was going
I wish I had known then what I do now. That my middle son really needed
the talk thereapy. He needed to talk to someone about what was going
on at home. He was the one that my oldest took a lot of the problems
out on. And in the end, he was the reason in a lot of peoples' minds
that he got sent away.
Luckily not in my oldest head when he came home.