2008 - Year of Losses

Earl · 10-01-2008, 12:50 AM

Well, I hate to be a downer. I really do but sometimes I just gotta vent.

I know I will probably tempt many of you to write replies that start out with "I'm so sorry" and "things will get better" and I appreciate it. I really am not writing this thread for that but to express my feelings.

February - Our 14 year old Russian Blue cat 'Ariel" was put to sleep. She was not eating and had a cancer we never diagnosed. She got very skinny and we knew it was time.

September - Our beloved black lab "Hunter" was put to sleep. You all know this as it was recent.

Three weeks ago - my DW decided we needed to separate and take a break from marriage because she was not happy. She came home 6 days later and swore she would work in it if I did. Well, I did work on it, I did all I could, even sending flowers to her at work last Friday to celebrate her first full day of the new job.

Today - During our second session of marriage counseling she told me she was not in love with me and there was no hope to fix our marriage. She is moving back out and in with her mother tomorrow. She said she would not file any papers for 6 months. She also said she was going to continue counseling on her own. She knows she needs therapy.

Tonight - My Senior Pastor (SP) calls to inquire on how things are going. I told him she was moving out and he relayed how sorry he is to hear that. He then asks me to take my information off our church website and to take a sebatical from the church. So- I lost my position with the church, after all, I am the family/ counseling pastor who can't keep his own marriage together? I guess he is right.

So, this has been the worst year. I started the year with a cat, dog, wife and position at the church I loved, now *poof* it's ALL GONE.

I really wish I could just go somewhere and crawl under a log. Sometimes life just ain't worth it.

** don't worry, I am way to religious to do anything stupid to myself

SallyC · 10-01-2008, 01:18 AM

Sheesh, Earl, there has got to be a new door opening soon for you..

PunkDizzle · 10-01-2008, 01:53 AM

wow.. just wow man.. that is a lot to deal with all at once.. but as you already know he never said life would be easy... props for you to be able to come here and vent.. sucks when it seems like your whole world just exploded.. i cant relate to everything you are going though but please feel free to PM me if you just want to chat with someone else who's life has been shook up a lot.. or just want someone to vent 2... i got a lot of time on my hands and love yapping with ppl.. ill keep you in my prayers bro.

sabimax · 10-01-2008, 07:16 AM

HUGSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSs

dmplaura · 10-01-2008, 08:50 AM

That is a lot Earl. Take some time for yourself now. I'm sure the future will be bright

weegot5kiz · 10-01-2008, 09:04 AM

Earl for the pets, I shall still say sorry, as for the life issues just have faith God has this all set up for you, perhaps these nasty steps are needed to reach something better and something that shall make you happier, praying and wishing that new door does open right quick

I went through a very horrid period too yrs ago, and came to the conclusion after many shouts why me what did i do, I realized those days were needed so today, tomorrow could happen, and I could be happy

peace

AfterMyNap · 10-01-2008, 09:13 AM

Well, that bites, Earl. Sometimes God just asks us the harder questions. What's he asking you?

I'm around if you need to talk.

Kitty · 10-01-2008, 09:56 AM

That's alot to deal with, Earl. Just take it one day at a time. Like Frank said....sometimes we have to go through a rough patch to get to smooth ground.

soxmom · 10-01-2008, 01:07 PM

thats rough Earl. sending you positive thoughts and hugs.

NurseNancy · 10-01-2008, 04:10 PM

you're going thru a lot of loss earl.
i hope things will improve in the new year.

sending healing thoughts your way.